A message of hope…

For me it’s 6 years since I walked away from an abusive partner and today I just really wanted to send a message to anyone out there that has experienced domestic abuse.

I know you feel consumed and overwhelmed by what’s happened or happening to you. Those first few hours, days, weeks, months or years go by and you wonder when it will no longer be the focus of your mind.

You ask why you can’t feel better, you ask why when you do start to feel better, that something else hits you. You feel as though you are going backwards.

You may wonder why this happened to you or why they won’t leave you alone. You wonder if they’ll ever leave you alone. You wonder if this will ever end.

I’m here to tell you it will stop consuming you. It doesn’t ever leave you, it is part of you now forever. But the light of it does dim, it becomes a lighter stone to carry. The flashbacks will become less, the panic attacks will be less often, the nightmares will ease. The pain you feel in your soul and body will ease.

One day you’ll realise you didn’t think about it today. One day you’ll realise that it didn’t hurt like it did yesterday. One day you’ll see a small positive. You’ll see you gained something from it.

One day the reason will become clear.

So for all those times you weren’t seen, I see you.

Those times you weren’t heard, I hear you.

For those times you weren’t believed, I believe you.

For those times you feel in pain, I feel it with you.

Those times you cried alone, I’ll cry with you.

It is never, ever too late to leave. I promise you there is hope, just be patient and keep jumping those hurdles, they get smaller.

Song for every blog…

Tom Walker - Not giving in

When you gave away the love we gave you

You don't want a soul to save you

Yeah, I'll never stop, I'm not giving in

(No, no, no, no)

'Cause I'll climb the walls that slowly cage you

Break that chains that you can't break through

Yeah, I'll never stop

I'm not giving in