Leaving an abusive situation can be a dangerous time, here’s some things to consider and help you.
Firstly, if you are considering leaving an abuser, it’s important to realize this is the most dangerous time of all, so please do take care. Reach out for support from loved ones (if this is possible); if not, there are services and organizations that can aid you in escaping safely.
Try to keep your plan secret and do not disclose it to anyone, especially your perpetrator.
Here are some helpful tips on making a safety plan
Have an organized place/person you can go to; if possible, pick a time/date that you feel is safest.
Write down addresses/numbers of safe places/people in case you are without a phone.
Put together your important documents, i.e., passport/driver’s license/personal identification/visa documents/marriage certificate/ tenancy agreements/birth certificates or red book for small children.
Medications/repeat prescription slips.
Money/bank cards (though remember if you are fleeing and the perpetrator has access to your bank account, they may see the location of money being spent).
Spare clothes, personal possessions.
If you have a phone, remember to turn off your location services when you flee.
Please note that I am very aware this might not be possible for everyone; this is just the scenario we would hope for. It is understandable that many victims won’t have support from loved ones if they have been isolated, or have access to money, etc., but I’ve seen people escaping or fleeing into refuge with nothing but the clothes on their backs. You will be supported no matter what, and many of these things can be overcome; the most important thing is your safety.
If it is an emergency, please don’t hesitate to call the police; they are there to protect you. If you are unsure of your options, you can speak with the police via 101 (your force should have a dedicated domestic abuse unit), or you can speak with your local council, who will be able to signpost you to organizations within the area or assist with finding safe accommodation.
For more options and information regarding organizations and charities that can help you, please visit the 'get support' page; many of these are independent from the police. There are also charities that assist in rehoming/temporary placement for pets too.
Stay safe!